The holidays are a time of joy, family, and warmth—or so the greeting cards claim, although, with the Postal strike, we're not receiving those cards. In reality, they’re often a cocktail of stress, overspending, awkward family dynamics, and Aunt Carol's infamous fruitcake. Maintaining your mental health through it all can feel like trying to hang Christmas lights while the wind is howling. But fear not: I’ve got you covered with three practical (and sanity-saving) strategies.
1. Set Boundaries Like Your Sanity Depends on It (Because It Does)
The holiday season is notorious for people-pleasing pitfalls. Whether it’s your coworker’s ugly sweater party, your in-laws’ six-hour gift exchange, or yet another cookie exchange (how many cookies does one person need?), saying “yes” to everything will drain your energy faster than holiday lights on an old power grid.
The Art of the “No”
Practice the magical phrase: “Thank you for thinking of me, but I can’t make it.” It’s polite, clear, and doesn’t leave room for negotiation. If guilt starts creeping in, remember this: taking care of your mental health isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
Plan for Recharge Time
Schedule downtime like you would any other commitment. This could mean setting aside a couple of hours to watch your favourite holiday movie (no judgment if it’s Die Hard or Sex in the City), journaling, or simply savouring the silence.
Pro Tip:
Use technology to your advantage! Create an “away” message for email or turn off notifications during family gatherings. This lets others know you’re temporarily unavailable and helps you focus on the moment.
2. Embrace Imperfection (Your Holidays Don’t Need to Be Instagram-Worthy)
Holiday perfectionism is the Grinch in disguise. We’re bombarded with images of immaculate dinners, glittering decorations, and cheerful families in matching pyjamas. But let’s be real: life is messy, and that’s okay.
Lower the Bar (Yes, Lower It)
Instead of aiming for perfection, aim for good enough. A burnt turkey isn’t a crisis; it’s a funny story for next year. And if the kids end up eating cereal for dinner one night while you binge holiday rom-coms? You’re doing just fine. Make a list of the bare minimum that has to be done for a good time and only focus on that - let go of perfection.
Focus on Connection, Not Presentation
The heart of the holidays is connection—not how fancy your charcuterie board is. Lean into moments that bring you joy, whether that’s a heartfelt conversation with a friend, cuddling your pet, or a spontaneous snowball fight. What would you have to change to make connection the center of the holidays?
Pro Tip:
Delegate tasks! If you’re hosting, let others bring a dish or two. No one will judge your store-bought pie if you’re not Martha Stewart (spoiler: most of us aren’t).
3. Prioritize Your Mental Health Like It’s a VIP Guest
The holidays can be emotionally charged. Maybe you’re grieving a loss, navigating a tough family dynamic, or feeling the financial strain of gift-giving. Whatever you’re carrying, prioritizing your mental health is crucial.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s okay not to feel holly-jolly 24/7. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions, whether they’re joy, sadness, frustration, or exhaustion. Journaling can be a great outlet for processing those feelings and gaining clarity.
Stay Active (and Not Just by Shopping)
Physical activity is a natural stress reliever. Take a walk, try a yoga class, or dance like nobody’s watching to Mariah Carey’s All I Want for Christmas Is You. Movement boosts endorphins, which can help lift your mood.
Limit the Sugar and Booze
Sure, holiday treats are delicious, but too much sugar or alcohol can amplify stress and anxiety. Balance indulgence with nourishing foods, and don’t forget to hydrate (preferably with something other than eggnog).
The Holiday Survival Kit (Recap)
Set Boundaries: Protect your time and energy.
Embrace Imperfection: Aim for connection, not perfection.
Prioritize Mental Health: Feel your feelings, stay active, and make nourishing choices.
The holidays don’t have to be picture-perfect to be meaningful. By setting boundaries, embracing imperfection, and prioritizing your well-being, you can survive—and even thrive—during this festive season.
So, take a deep breath, enjoy the parts that make you smile, and let go of the rest. And if all else fails, there’s always next year to get it right!
Cecilia
PS: I'm offering a FREE Goal Setting Workshop to help you bring in 2025 with ease, and fulfillment with value-driven goals.
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